Tuesday, November 10, 2009
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I know that my life was deeply influenced by one friend; she is the very successful woman, at before I contacted her lot and her behavior, her way of making decision, her attitude of working etc.

Like her thinking of marriage, she used to teach me that I should sacrifice everything for the family, for the husband, like what she does. One example is that last year, she introduced her classmate to me, she told me:” When you contact with him, you should stop look for another boy, never. “ So follow her instruction, when I chatted with her classmate online and didn’t meet each other, I stopped contacting other guys, even only friend. Because I trusted her love is pure and innocent. But sadly, her classmate doesn’t interest in me, he even didn’t say goodbye to me. I wasted two months in playing game with him and got nothing, I even didn’t say goodbye on my own, because from her thinking, that I should treat him very nice and be appendant.

At that time, what I love I looked for is pure, and ready to give all my belongs to the one I love. However I was hurt badly, I can’t hurt him and I can’t say goodbye to him, only wait him to do this to me.

What I am in today is that it is totally wrong, the smart thing to do is to meet as much guys as I could and contact with others before marriage. I put myself into very hard situation and contact only to him, when he leaves, I need to start again and that does cost me more time to get the end.

Still from her theory, that I should give, never ask to get. I think it is a wrong theory, if you like someone, you should ask, not give. The more you get from him, the more you get from him, the more he is into you. Because he loses you, he loses his investment on you, so he can’t loses you. Worse, if you give but not get, it hurts him nothing if he leaves you.

I think to be a bad girl is better than to be a good girl, in this reality.